Many more men are having a tough time reaching orgasm with their partner–delayed ejaculation.

Orgasm can be much easier to do on your own.  Having a partner present can bring up concerns that you just don’t have on your own.  Here are some of the common concerns men have when they are having trouble reaching orgasm with a partner:

  1. Timing:  Wondering,am I coming too quickly?”,
  2. Pregnancy: Wondering “am I coming in the right place?”
  3. Sustaining arousal: Wondering: “will I come at all?”
  4. Getting “the right” stimulation: Wondering “how can I come in this position or doing this act (with not enough stimulation)”
  5. Getting “enough” stimulation:  Wondering “how can I come without the sensation of the condom?”

Worry about anything at all, simply the act of worrying, can interrupt your attention on the erotic, which is crucial for orgasm. Simply put: You need to erotic focus enough to reach orgasm.

What should you do to orgasm with a partner?

 

  1. Identify YOUR biggest worry. Understand where you are getting caught up.  Are you worried about any of those common worries?
  2. Address this with your partner. It can add to the worry if you think your partner is feeling like sex is taking too long, she is getting sore, etc.
  3. Masturbate differently. Many men cannot have an orgasm with a partner because they are used to more sensation (ie. a tighter hand) with masturbation. Every body will adapt to the type stimulation you give it on a regular basis.  If you are not getting enough stimulation with intercourse, you can “train” your nerves to be more sensitive on the whole.Use a masturbation sleeve, like the Fleshlight, to simulate the vagina during masturbation.